English and Urdu Both Version
Azdawaji Zindagi ka Islami Usoolon Par Mushtamil Dilchasp Aur
Bahtreen Kitab:
The conjugal life is a fascinating and essential organization. In the event that one neglects to comprehend the center of the matrimonial connection amongst man and lady he will lead an existence of insensibility and confusion.
The conjugal life is a fascinating and essential organization. In the event that one neglects to comprehend the center of the matrimonial connection amongst man and lady he will lead an existence of insensibility and confusion.
It ought to be realized that there are numerous behavior in
the region of marriage. All that the creator is worried about here in this
immediately arranged work is the Qur'anic verses and that which is validated of
the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad, that which is blameless from the point of
view of its chain of portrayal and whereupon no uncertainty can be thrown
regarding its developments and implications. Along these lines, whoever peruses
and takes after this data will be on an unmistakably settled premise in
religion, and will have full trust in tl1e source and legitimacy of his
activities.
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Is kitab me ourton aur mardon ki nafsiyat aur tarjeehat per b achi
bahas mojoud he k jis ka ilam na hone ki wja se aksar w beshtar nae shadi shuda
jore ikhtlaf w intashar ka shaker ho jate he-nae shadi shuda hazrat ko is k
mutalia ki talqeen krni chahye
Topics: Nikah Ki Targheeb, Shadi Se Pehle Tibbi
Ganch, Nikah Me Wali Ki Sharat, Shadi Se Qabal Larki Se Ijazat Zrori
He, Suhag Rat, Nikah Ki Khushi Aur Walima,
Language: Urdu
Azdawaji Zindagi ka Islami Usoolon Par Mushtamil Dilchasp Aur
Bahtreen Kitab:
- Aurat Say Ijazat Aur Uski Razamandi
- College Girl
- Tahreek Azadi E Niswan
- Nikah Ke Targheeb
- Jinsi tawanai Ke Ahmiat
- Rishta Azdawaj Ka Pahle Zeena
- Mangator Ko Zror Dekh Lena Chahiye
- Daami Mohabbat - Kamyab Shadi
- Bachpan Ke Shadi Say Guraiz
- Nikah Me Wali Ke Shart
- Mohabbt Kathan Hoti Ha
- Sharai Shadi
- Khutba Nikaah
- Maa Baap ke Tarf Say Beti Ko Naseehat
- Dulhan Aur Damaad Ko Hidayat
- Izhar Musrarat Aur Geet Wa Daff Bajaana
- Soonay Ke Anghoti Say Mumnaat
- Allah Jameel Ha - Jamaal Ko Pasand Karta Ha
- Khushbu Say Mohabbat Barhti Ha
- Sohagrat Me Bivi Ka Pass Ana
- Khalvat Ke Pur Lutf bataen Btana Harama Ha
- Haiz Wali Aurat Say Sohbat Haram Ha
- Juma Ka Din ka Pahle Ghusal
- Hazoor SAW ke Mohabbat Aur Mazah Ka Pur Lutf Tareeqa
- Rozy Ke Halat Me Bivi Ka Boosa Lena
- Bivi Ka Sath Husn E Salook
- Khoobiyan Aur Kharabian
- Mardon Ke Hakmiat
The marital
life is an interesting and necessary institution. If one fails to understand
the core of the conjugal relation between man and woman he will lead a life of
oblivion and disorientation.
I hope that
the prospective spouse study the technique of marriage before getting into it.
Unless we teach our prospective spouses the correct way of their new marital
life, they may resort to erotic books or stories that mislead them. There are
many misconceptions about marriage and man-woman relationship.
Therefore, I
decided to write this beneficial treatise and authenticated treatment clearly
explaining the way to a happy marital life. I pointed out certain issues
important to everyone who marries, and with which many wives in particular have
been tested. I ask Allah Most High to bring about some benefit from this
treatise, and to accept this work solely for His glorious countenance. Surely,
He is the Righteous, the Merciful.
It should be
known that there are many etiquette in the area of marriage. All that I am
concerned with here in this quickly compiled work is the Qur’anic verses and
that which is authenticated of the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad, that which
is irreproachable from the standpoint of its chain of narration and upon which
no doubt can be cast in terms of its constructions and meanings. In this way,
whoever reads and follows this information will be on a clearly established
basis in religion, and will have full confidence in tl1e source and validity of
his actions. I hope for him that Allah will put the final seal of felicity on
his life, in reward for beginning his married life with the following of the
Sunnah, and to make for him among His slaves. I openly discussed sexual
relation between husband and wife. No wonder, Islam is a realistic religion.
Sex is a natural and creative urge. Hence, Islam lays down great importance on
marriage and the constitution of a new family.
When talking
about sex, the Glorious Qur’an is very euphemistic though clear. Particularly,
the Qur’an uses euphemism and figurative speech when dealing with matters
pertaining to sex and man-woman relationship.
The Qur’an
deals with the human life and all what it contains. It permeates into the
personal relationship between husband and wife to organize it. It further
provides the remedy to one’s passion and passionate love.
When
recounting the story of Yusuf (pbuh), the Qur’an highlights the conflict
between the blazing sexual urge and the suppression of that urge by adhering to
Allah’s Guidance. Allah Almighty says:
{But she in
whose house he was, sought to seduce him and she fastened the doors, and said:
‘Now come,” He said: “Allah forbid! Truly (thy husband) is my lord! he made my
sojourn agreeable! Truly to no good come those who do wrong and (with passion)
did she desire him, and he would have desired her, but that he saw the evidence
of his Lord: thus (Did you order) that We might turn away from him indecent
deeds: For he was one of Our servants chosen.}} [Yusuf: 23-24]
The evidence
which Yusuf saw was the evidence of faith. In the Prophetic Hadith we have also
another story which emphasizes that faith is the safety belt that protects man
against whatever he might face of worldly appeals.
Allah’s
Messenger said, “While three persons were traveling, they were overtaken by
rain and they took shelter in a cave in a mountain. A big rock fell from the
mountain over the mouth of the cave and blocked it. They said to each other.
‘Think of such good (righteous) deeds which, you did for Allah’s sake only, and
invoke Allah by giving reference to those deeds so that Allah may relieve you
from your difficulty.
One of them
said, ‘O Allah! I had my parents who were very old and I had small children for
whose sake I used to work as a shepherd. When I returned to them at night and,
milked (the sheep), I used to start giving the milk to my parents first before
giving to my children. And one day I went far away in search of a grazing place
(for my sheep), and didn’t return home till late at night and found that my
parents had slept. I milked (my livestock) as usual and brought the milk vessel
and stood at their heads, and I disliked to wake them up from their sleep, and
I also disliked to give the milk to my children before my parents though my
children were crying (from hunger) at my feet. So this state of theirs and mine
continued till the day dawned. (O Allah!) If you considered that I had done
that only for seeking Your pleasure, then please let there be an opening
through which we can see the sky.’ So Allah made for them an opening through
which they could see the sky.
Then the
second person said, ‘O Allah! I had a she-cousin whom I loved as much as a
passionate man loves a woman. I tried to seduce her but she refused till I paid
her one hundred Dinars. So I worked hard till I collected one hundred Dinars
and went to her with that But when I sat in between her legs (to have sexual
intercourse with her), she said, ‘O Allah’s slave! Be afraid of Allah! Do not
deflower me except legally (by marriage contract). So I left her O Allah! If
you considered that I had done that only for seeking Your pleasure then please
let the rock move a little to have a (wider) opening.’ So Allah shifted that
rock to make the opening wider for them.
And the last
(third) person said ‘O Allah! I employed a laborer for wages equal to a Faraq
(a certain measure: of rice, and when he had finished his ,job he demanded his
wages, but when I presented his due to him, he gave it up and refused to take
it. Then I kept on sowing that rice for him (several times) till managed to buy
with the price of the yield, some cows and their shepherd Later on the laborer
came to me and said. ‘(O Allah’s slave!) Be afraid O Allah, and do not be
unjust to me an give me my due.’ I said (to him). ‘Go and take those cows and
their shepherd. So he took them and went away. (So, O Allah!) If You considered
that I had done that for seeking Your pleasure, then please remove the
remaining part of the rock.’ And so Allah released them (from their difficulty).”
This book
consists of a scientific and realistic discussion of manwoman relationship.
Spouses should know each other spiritually, physically and sexually.
They must
not feel shy when discussing such matters that to sex. They should feel that they
are one entity. Platonic love is not enough to unify the spouse hearts. Sexual
satisfaction may be the fruit of their physical and spiritual unity. Therefore,
they must be creative and cooperative.
Man-woman
relationship is not only innate but also acquired. It needs much study to be
understood. It needs developing and renovating so that the partners might not
feel bored or monotonous.
Foreword:
All praise
is due to Allah, Exalted be He, the One who made marriage lawful and superior.
He made it for the continuation of mankind and the population of the earth. He
the Almighty said in the clear verses of His Book:
{(And among
His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye
may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your
(hearts): Verily in that are Signs for those who reflect)} [Al-Rum 30:21]
These verses
of the Noble Qur’an clearly show that in contrast to other religions like
Christianity, Buddhism, Judaism etc. which consider celibacy or monasticism as
a great virtue and a means of salvation, Islam considers marriage as one of the
most virtuous and approved institutions. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon
him) declared, “There is no monasticism in Islam.” He further ordained, “O you
young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to
lower his gaze and guard his modesty.”[Al-Bukhari]
“Many the
affectionate and fertile (woman), for I will compete with the other Prophets
with the number of my followers on the Day of Judgement.” [Ahmad and Tabarani]
The human
desire, although common to all living beings, in case of men and women there
are some unique aspects. There are in Islam, certain etiquette upon anyone who
marries and wishes to consummate his marriage with his wife. Most Muslims
today, even those who exert themselves in Islamic worship have either neglected
or become totally ignorant of these Islamic etiquette.
It is also
important that you know how to deal with your wife to get the reward of this
worldly life and the Hereafter. The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) is reported to
have said, “There are three things that bring happiness: a righteous woman whom
you admire when seeing her, and whom you trust as regards your honor and
property when leaving her, a good mount that enables you catch your friends,
and a wide house that has many utilities. But there are three things that bring
adversity: a woman whom you dislike when seeing her, who hurts you with her
tongue, and whom you do not trust as regards your honor and property when
leaving her, a bad mount that bothers you if you heat it, and if you do not
beat it, it does not help you catch your friends, and a narrow house that has
few utilities.” [Narrated by Al-Hakim]
“Whoever
Allah grants him a righteous woman has got one half of his re1igion. Thus, he
should fear Allah in the other half” [Narrated by At-Tabarani].
Table of Contents:
• Foreword
•
Introduction
• Marriage
is an Act of Worship
– Marriage
as Allah’s Favor
– The superiority of Marriage
– Chastity
– Women Are on the Top of Worldly Enjoyment
– Misconception of Worship
– The superiority of Marriage
– Chastity
– Women Are on the Top of Worldly Enjoyment
– Misconception of Worship
• Before
Marriage
–
Righteousness and Marriage
– Adulterers only Marry Each Other
– Beware of Outer Appearance
– Looking at One’s Prospective Partner
– Medical Check up before Marriage
– Undercutting Another’s Betrothal
– The Constant Love and the Blooming Marriage
– Marrying Young Ladies
– A Woman’s Guardian
– Adulterers only Marry Each Other
– Beware of Outer Appearance
– Looking at One’s Prospective Partner
– Medical Check up before Marriage
– Undercutting Another’s Betrothal
– The Constant Love and the Blooming Marriage
– Marrying Young Ladies
– A Woman’s Guardian
• Islam and
Love
– Marriage,
the Best Bond for the Lovers
– Hard Love
– Hard Love
• Blessed
Marriage
– The
Bride’s Consent Before Marriage
– The Woman’s Right to Marry a Suitable Match of Her Choice
– The Presentation of Ones Daughter (for Marriage) To a Religious Man
– The Bride’s Dowry
– A Proposal of Marriage
– The Necessity of Giving the Dowry
– The Address While Marriage Proposal
– The Woman’s Right to Marry a Suitable Match of Her Choice
– The Presentation of Ones Daughter (for Marriage) To a Religious Man
– The Bride’s Dowry
– A Proposal of Marriage
– The Necessity of Giving the Dowry
– The Address While Marriage Proposal
• Recommendations
before Marriage
• In the Bed
room
– Caressing
One’s Wife When the Consummation of Marriage with Her
– What a Husband Says on the First Day of Marriage
– Women’s Speech
– What a Husband Says upon the First Time to Have Sexual Intercourse with His Wife
– The Prohibition of Spreading Bedroom Secrets
– What a Husband Does on the Next Day of Marriage
– How Does a Husband Approach His Wife
– Reward Even While Having Sexual Intercourse
– Reward for Those Who Have Sexual Intercourse with Their Wives on Fridays
– Sodomizing One’s Wife
– Guarding One’s Nakedness Except from His wife
– Intercourse with One’s Wife during Menstruation
– One’s Privacy before his Wife
– Wash Yourself for Another Sexual Approach
– The House Must Have a Place for Bathing
– Disaffecting a Person’s Wife
– What a Husband Says on the First Day of Marriage
– Women’s Speech
– What a Husband Says upon the First Time to Have Sexual Intercourse with His Wife
– The Prohibition of Spreading Bedroom Secrets
– What a Husband Does on the Next Day of Marriage
– How Does a Husband Approach His Wife
– Reward Even While Having Sexual Intercourse
– Reward for Those Who Have Sexual Intercourse with Their Wives on Fridays
– Sodomizing One’s Wife
– Guarding One’s Nakedness Except from His wife
– Intercourse with One’s Wife during Menstruation
– One’s Privacy before his Wife
– Wash Yourself for Another Sexual Approach
– The House Must Have a Place for Bathing
– Disaffecting a Person’s Wife
• Caressing
– Caressing
One’s Wife
– Caressing One’s wife Even While Menstruation
– The Bathing of Husband And Wife together
– The Superiority of Caressing One’s wife
– Having Sexual Intercourse With One’s Wife While
– Fasting in Ramadan
– The Prophet, the Funny Husband
– Caressing One’s wife Even While Menstruation
– The Bathing of Husband And Wife together
– The Superiority of Caressing One’s wife
– Having Sexual Intercourse With One’s Wife While
– Fasting in Ramadan
– The Prophet, the Funny Husband
• The
Wedding Banquet
– The
Wedding Banquet
– The Obligation of Accepting the Wedding Banquet
– Not Accepting the Wedding Banquet If One sees something disapproved of (from the standpoint of religion) in the party
– Supplication While the Wedding Banquet
– The Obligation of Accepting the Wedding Banquet
– Not Accepting the Wedding Banquet If One sees something disapproved of (from the standpoint of religion) in the party
– Supplication While the Wedding Banquet
• Take Care
of Women
– Kind
Treatment of One’s Wife
– How to Deal with a Wife Whom You Dislike
– Forbearing One’s Wife
– The Exhortation of Taking Care of Women
– The High Rank of woman in Islam
– How to Deal with a Wife Whom You Dislike
– Forbearing One’s Wife
– The Exhortation of Taking Care of Women
– The High Rank of woman in Islam
• Advantages
and Disadvantages
– Beautiful
Women in Paradise
– o The Description of a Righteous Woman
– Undesirable Woman
– The Ideal Wife
– The Prophet, the Faithful Husband
– o The Description of a Righteous Woman
– Undesirable Woman
– The Ideal Wife
– The Prophet, the Faithful Husband
• Rights and
Duties
– The Wife’s
Rights
– Deserting One’s Wife for a Long Time
– The Wife as a Friend
– The Husband’s Right towards his Wife
– A Woman’s Voluntary Fasting
– The Superiority of Maintaining One’s Husband
– The Heavenly Wives Defending Their Husbands
– The Reward of Obeying One’s Husband
– Take Care of Women
– The Responsibility of the Spouse Towards Each Other
– The Political and Military Goals of Marriage
– Evidence of the Prophecy
– Deserting One’s Wife for a Long Time
– The Wife as a Friend
– The Husband’s Right towards his Wife
– A Woman’s Voluntary Fasting
– The Superiority of Maintaining One’s Husband
– The Heavenly Wives Defending Their Husbands
– The Reward of Obeying One’s Husband
– Take Care of Women
– The Responsibility of the Spouse Towards Each Other
– The Political and Military Goals of Marriage
– Evidence of the Prophecy
• Marriage
Is Enjoyment and Responsibility
– The
Marital Life Is Not Just for Pleasure
– From the Arms of His Bride to the Battlefield
– How Islam Brings up the Woman
– Women and knowledge
– The Leisure Time
– Characteristics of the Leaders Wives
– The Prophet As A Serious Husband
– The Ascetic Life of the Prophet
– The Superiority of the Perseverance of One’s Wife
– Maintaining One’s Wife
– The Reward of Maintaining One’s Children
– A Miser Husband
– Having Many Children
– Giving the Call to Prayer in the Ears of the Newborn Baby
– Sacrifice for A Newborn and Circumcision
– Name-Giving
– The Prophet As A Kind Father
– Changing Silly Names
– The Tribulation of Children
– Islam and Girls
– The Reward of Taking Care of Girls
– Women and Teaching
– Maintaining the Woman’s Health
– Educational Principles
– Bringing up One’s Children
– When should a Child Be Ordered to Perform the Prayer
– Lying to One’s Children
– Equality Among Children
– Kind Treatment to One’s Children
– The Reward Granted to the Parents Who Have a Dead Child
– Intercession of Children for their Parents
– A Wife Should Relieve the Misfortune of Her Husband
– Obedience to One’s Parents
– From the Arms of His Bride to the Battlefield
– How Islam Brings up the Woman
– Women and knowledge
– The Leisure Time
– Characteristics of the Leaders Wives
– The Prophet As A Serious Husband
– The Ascetic Life of the Prophet
– The Superiority of the Perseverance of One’s Wife
– Maintaining One’s Wife
– The Reward of Maintaining One’s Children
– A Miser Husband
– Having Many Children
– Giving the Call to Prayer in the Ears of the Newborn Baby
– Sacrifice for A Newborn and Circumcision
– Name-Giving
– The Prophet As A Kind Father
– Changing Silly Names
– The Tribulation of Children
– Islam and Girls
– The Reward of Taking Care of Girls
– Women and Teaching
– Maintaining the Woman’s Health
– Educational Principles
– Bringing up One’s Children
– When should a Child Be Ordered to Perform the Prayer
– Lying to One’s Children
– Equality Among Children
– Kind Treatment to One’s Children
– The Reward Granted to the Parents Who Have a Dead Child
– Intercession of Children for their Parents
– A Wife Should Relieve the Misfortune of Her Husband
– Obedience to One’s Parents
• The
Tribulation of Women
– Cherchez
la femme
– The seriousness of sex
– Non segregation of sexes and staying in seclusion with woman
– O Wife Be Ware!
– A gaze Is one of Satan’s Arrows
– The Clear Truth
– A Wife Should Satisfy Her Husband as Quick as Possible
– The seriousness of sex
– Non segregation of sexes and staying in seclusion with woman
– O Wife Be Ware!
– A gaze Is one of Satan’s Arrows
– The Clear Truth
– A Wife Should Satisfy Her Husband as Quick as Possible
• Family and
Dangers
– The
Husband’s Relatives and Friends
– Beware of the Display of Woman’s Body
– Women Imitating Men and Vice Versa
– Negative showing off
– The Prohibition of Imitating the Unbelievers
– Chaste people Are under Allah’s Shade
– The Reward of Chastity
– Do Not Approach Adultery
– Sexual Relation in Paradise
– Repentance
– Beware of the Display of Woman’s Body
– Women Imitating Men and Vice Versa
– Negative showing off
– The Prohibition of Imitating the Unbelievers
– Chaste people Are under Allah’s Shade
– The Reward of Chastity
– Do Not Approach Adultery
– Sexual Relation in Paradise
– Repentance
• Jealousy
Consumes Love
– Jealousy
• A Feather
in the Wind
– A wife Is
Rebellion Against her Husband
– A Husband Is Rebellion Against His Wife
– Arbitration
– A Husband Is Rebellion Against His Wife
– Arbitration
• Sex:
Questions and Answers
– Everything
You Ever Wanted to Know About Sex
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